How to be a mindful Muslim mum using muraqabah

Being a mindful Muslim mum is something I have only thought about recently. I’m a huge fan of self development and being more productive. Being proactive is one way I manage my depression and BPD. The act of mindfulness is one where you focus on the present moment which leads to you behind more self aware. When you are more self aware of your thoughts, emotions and feelings you can start to develop control over these areas. This is brilliant for me because I often feel my emotions control me which affects my parenting. This has probably at some point also happened to you too, right? Well that’s why you need to keep reading this post!

 

What is a mindful Muslim mum?

Being a mindful Muslim mum means incorporating muraqabah in to your daily life with the kids. Muraqabah is a concept similar to meditation which is one form of mindfulness. Muraqabah is where you are constantly mindful of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) and how He sees you both inside yourself and outwardly too. You are constantly aware of your relationship with Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) and that is always in the forefront of your mind, making you vigilant. Because you know Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) is watching you inevitably pay more attention to your thoughts, actions and feelings. This leads to feelings of inner peace and tranquillity.

 

How can you achieve muraqabah to be a more mindful Muslim mum?

First it’s important to note that muraqabah leads to ihsan (spiritual excellence). Ihsan is where you worship Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) as if you can see Him and if not as if He can see you. Muraqabah has 4 aspects to it as mentioned by Shaykh Abdul Qadir Jilani.

1) Knowing/ being aware of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He)

2) Knowing the enemy Iblis

3) Being aware of your self and your soul’s capacity to suggest evil

4) Knowing the deeds to be done for the sake of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He)

 

Daily spiritual practices for a mindful Muslim mum:

Al-Ghazali recommended 4 practices:

  • Supplication (athkar)
  • Remembrance of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) (dhikr)
  • Qur’anic recitation
  • Deep contemplation

 

Exercises to be a more mindful Muslim mum

  1. Begin by gently breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth. Relax each part of your body slowly once by one.
  2. Let go of your thoughts knowing that Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) is watching you and focus on being with Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) in the present moment.
  3. Purposefully watch your breath that Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) has blessed you with enter for body and feel the energy Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) gave you throughout your body.
  4. Watch with awareness as it rises back up and leaves your body.

If you get distracted at any point recite the remembrances of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) and try again.

 

What will being a mindful Muslim mum do for my mental health?

Islamic meditation is about achieving mental and spiritual strength and wellbeing using muraqabah and the remembrance of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He). This can also help you develop khushoo in your salaat and strengthen your connection with Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He).

Mindfulness has been proven to aid depression, anxiety and mental stress. It improves memory, focus and increases empathy and compassion. In sha Allah it will allow me to become more aware of the distance between my thoughts, feelings and emotions and the reaction to those thoughts and feelings so that I have greater control over my reaction to it.

Why not try it for yourself and see how being a more mindful Muslim mum changes your life?

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