I have come across many Muslim mothers who have lost their self worth, their sense of self, under all the nappy changes, cooking, feeding and cleaning. Sleep deprived, attending to the needs of all in the household as well as the house itself they seem to forget the mass contribution they are making in our Ummah. Not only are some women wives and have the rewards with Allah in contributing to their marriages, they are also bringing up the next generation! Building towards a righteous society in sha Allah. They are the first imaams to their children! bringing them up, nurturing the minds, souls and hearts of the future men and women of society whom can make amazing contributions in sha Allah.
Look at our role model ‘Aaishah (radiallaahu ‘anhaa) and her great effect. Since even the great Sahaabah (Companions) used to take knowledge of Hadeeth from her, and many of the Sahaabiyaat (female Companions) learnt the various rulings pertaining to women’s issues from her. You too dear sisters and Muslim mothers can also contribute to this ummah. Different women have been blessed with different capabilities and can contribute in different ways.
Muslim mothers can have a tremendous effect upon children in encouraging them to implement our perfect deen. A house in which there is kindness, gentleness, love and care, along with the correct Islamic tarbiyah (education and cultivation), can greatly affect the men and women of tomorrow. They will become, if Allah wills, successful in their affairs and in any matter, whether it be seeking knowledge, trading, earning a living, or other than this.
Whoever works righteousness, whether male or female, while he (or she) is a true believer verily to him We will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do (i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter). – Surah AnNahl (16/97)
You are a part of righteous works dear sisters and Muslim mothers. Do not lose who you are, you are a contributer to righteous works. Each and everyone of you has been blessed with different skills, talents and knowledge that you can pass on to the next generations in sha Allah.
Let’s take a look at the vital role Imam Ahmad’s mother played. When Imam Ahmad was still young, his father died. He would tell his students of the work his mother went through in raising him, and he would pray for her. In the cold Baghdad nights, she would wake long before him to warm the water so that her son Ahmad could make wudu for Fajr. Then she would wrap him in blankets, herself cloaked in her Jilbaab, and guide him through the dark, cold alleys to reach the main Masjid, long before Fajr so that her son could get a good seat in class. Her son Ahmad, at that age in grade 2 or 3 – would sit all day long studying Qur’an and Sunnah, and she would wait for him to finish so that she could drop him home safely. At the age of 16, she prepared money and food for him and told him, “Travel for your search of knowledge.” He left for Makkah and Madinah and many other places and met many great scholars. She raised Ahmad to become one of the four greatest Imams in Islam!
You too can play a vital role!
You too dear sisters, and Muslim mothers can also have an effect on your sons and daughters in sha Allah.
Don’t forget how blessed you are to have this opportunity, don’t forget how valuable you are, don’t forget that you are a walking, talking role model 24/7 and this could be your way to make great contributions to the Ummah.
Know your worth!